I Don't Know What To Do...

[Aeryn]

Someone I care for very much appears to be unhappy...of course, I don't know him that well, so I might be mistaken.

My mom said he looked sad when she last saw him. I know that he had cancer before, and I'm wondering if it's come back. I tried to e-mail him but it said that user doesn't exist... he knows MY e-mail address, and he hasn't contacted me recently...so, I'm afraid to reach out to him and see how he is.

I love him, but I'm still too chicken to contact him by phone.

Thoughts? Advice?

[Mistermoonlight]

Stop being chicken. Your gut is always almost right. Listen to it.

What's the worst that could happen, huh?

[Watchtower]

I'd say, call him. It's better to call and it'd be nothing serious than to not call and it'd be serious, you know what I mean?

[Aeryn]

Okay...I'm an idiot. I spelled his e-mail address wrong the first time.

I just sent him another one and it went through.

Now, I get to wait and see when/if he replies.

Prepare yourselves for either drama or immense happiness.

[Mistermoonlight]

Wishing you the best.

I think by now we could stand either one.

[Aeryn]

Thanks.

My mom thinks he's adoreable, but she can't tell him that because it wouldn't be "professional."

So...I sent the e-mail. Now I get to bite my nails like a lovesick 12 year old, wondering if he'll reply.

[Mistermoonlight]

Aeryn, what does a 70 year old woman care about being 'professional'? That what's adorable.

I know that you have a great mom.

I sure do miss mine.

[SoCal]

Nov 10, 2012 19:37:32 GMT -5 Aeryn said:

Okay...I'm an idiot. I spelled his e-mail address wrong the first time.

I just sent him another one and it went through.

Now, I get to wait and see when/if he replies.

Prepare yourselves for either drama or immense happiness.

Hoping you get a reply AND good news!

[AntiArbitrator]

Nov 10, 2012 20:06:23 GMT -5 Mistermoonlight said:

Aeryn, what does a 70 year old woman care about being 'professional'? That what's adorable.

I know that you have a great mom.

I sure do miss mine.

Good point. I stopped caring one minute after the big 7-0.

[Aeryn]

My mom is a history professor, and on the school board. So she cares about appearances.

[AntiArbitrator]

Nov 10, 2012 21:01:00 GMT -5 Aeryn said:

My mom is a history professor, and on the school board. So she cares about appearances.

That would do it. People probably observe her very closely.

So... you are not going to question my "7-0"?

[Aeryn]

[Dislekseyuh]

I would call the person up, but do it positively and casually. Don't go calling him like "hey... I noticed you look upset... I'm worried about you..."

Just call up and say something like "Hey, hope you're doing good. Haven't seen you in a while. Let's get together again sometime soon. Hope to hear back from you."

It's all about how you approach it. Even if you actually are going through something, you don't want somebody calling all worried and depressed with you. Being casual is your best friend.

[gilmorefanalways]

Dis is right I know when people ask me what's wrong it makes whatever it is worse. Be casual but genuine I find when people give me a few genuine words I feel way better. And don't feel like an idiot over mispellin the email once I locked myself out of here with mispelling my own email

[Aeryn]

I felt like an idiot because I did contact him...his response was polite, but I was hoping for something a little more personal.

[gilmorefanalways]

Did you get good news though

[Aeryn]

I just said, "Hope all is well," and he said, "All is fine."

He's not the most talkative man in the world.

[Dislekseyuh]

To be fair, that's what every phone conversation will be like with every guy on the planet, myself included.

[SoCal]

Monosyllabic would be a step up in conversations with some of the men I know.

They seem to think grunts and sighs are sufficient to carry on a conversation.

[Aeryn]

He cut his hair off!!!

[Dislekseyuh]

Nov 14, 2012 13:13:45 GMT -5 SoCal said:

Monosyllabic would be a step up in conversations with some of the men I know.

They seem to think grunts and sighs are sufficient to carry on a conversation.

A lot of us men view the phone as nothing more than a message delivery system as opposed to a means of prolonged conversation.

It's typically because of this reason that most of us don't see phone calls as very personal. A guy spends most of his time on the phone paying bills, calling to see where someone will be in an hour, making arrangements, ordering food, and calling to see if the store has something in stock. We view it merely as a tool, so it becomes much harder for us to put ourselves in the "sociable time" mind set.

Get him off the phone and on the internet, or over at your house, and you'll probably see the sociable mind turn on.

[Aeryn]

I'm smiting you because you're starting to remind me of a dude who used to be here...his name was Lostcause.

[Dislekseyuh]

Nov 14, 2012 16:50:44 GMT -5 Aeryn said:

I'm smiting you because you're starting to remind me of a dude who used to be here...his name was Lostcause.

Wait... from the old WB site? If so, that might have been me.

If from this site, then no.

Am I being too objective for you today?

[Aeryn]

You know, my mom insisted that I accompany her somewhere last night. I didn't want to, but she didn't want to go alone.

Guess who I saw? I wasn't expecting it, and nearly fainted. He looked SO good.

I swear, I feel like a 12 year old girl with a crush.

[Aeryn]

Nov 14, 2012 16:08:07 GMT -5 Dislekseyuh said:

Nov 14, 2012 13:13:45 GMT -5 SoCal said:

Monosyllabic would be a step up in conversations with some of the men I know.

They seem to think grunts and sighs are sufficient to carry on a conversation.

Get him off the phone and on the internet, or over at your house, and you'll probably see the sociable mind turn on.

It was on the internet.

[mazeman]

Nov 10, 2012 22:17:37 GMT -5 AntiArbitrator said:

Nov 10, 2012 21:01:00 GMT -5 Aeryn said:

My mom is a history professor, and on the school board. So she cares about appearances.

That would do it. People probably observe her very closely.

So... you are not going to question my "7-0"?

I am! LOL

[AntiArbitrator]

Nov 15, 2012 11:30:27 GMT -5 mazeman said:

Nov 10, 2012 22:17:37 GMT -5 AntiArbitrator said:

That would do it. People probably observe her very closely.

So... you are not going to question my "7-0"?

I am! LOL

Thank you!

[SoCal]

Anti -- NO FREAKIN' WAY!!!

You rock, sweetie, and have now become my role model.

[Dislekseyuh]

Nov 15, 2012 11:04:56 GMT -5 Aeryn said:

Nov 14, 2012 16:08:07 GMT -5 Dislekseyuh said:

Get him off the phone and on the internet, or over at your house, and you'll probably see the sociable mind turn on.

It was on the internet.

Then you have to show him a boob or something to get his attention.

[Aeryn]

But seriously, I don't want to come off as an unbalanced stalker.